Why dating apps don’t work - Bill Mei
Without an interconnected social network, there are few consequences for ghosting, dick pics, stalking, or lying about relationship status. But if you dated a friend, a friend would never ghost you. That would simply be unthinkable, because they risk banishment by the rest of your friends.2
Today, I approach dating less like an interview and more like a collaboration. I don’t take my dates out for coffee, dinner, or drinks. Instead, I’ll search for ways to trade favours, run errands together, or sign up as gym accountability buddies.1
For a woman I’m interested in romantically, I’ll think about how to invite her into the friendship quilt. How can she help one of my friends? What favours can I do that she will appreciate?1
It’s also significantly less stressful for me to simply paint a picture of the type of life I’m interested in building together, and leaving it open to anyone who resonates with it.1